Tea ~ Moroccan Mint
You know when you have big events or life changes going on and that is sometimes all you can think of to talk about? Or when you don’t know someone very well, that is all they can think to ask you about? If you’re in college, they ask, “So, how’s school going?” or if you’re getting married, “How are the wedding plans coming along?” or if you’re expecting a baby or adopting, it’s “How are you feeling?” or “How is the adoption process getting along?” I’ve observed this over many years and I really try my best to not monopolize a conversation with the “obvious” stuff about me. Of course, if people ask I will be polite, but let’s get down to the nitty gritty and past all the fluff. Life is too short for a lot of fluff.
I’m not going to talk about how I’m feeling or our baby registry or what color we’re going to paint the nursery because honestly, those things matter very little in the grand scheme of things. A couple of years ago, my heart started to change and God was moving me in a direction of a real desire to experience being a parent and pregnancy. I never thought it would happen. People assume that because I’m a woman that I automatically want to serve in kid’s ministry or hold other people’s babies. Nope. Too fluffy. Greg & I weren’t sure we even wanted our own kids when we first got married. We knew adoption was part of the plan at some point. So when I told Greg, who was not anywhere near a place to desire having our own children, nor did I expect him to be anytime soon or to just flip the switch and start now, I said, “I just want you to know, my heart is changing in this area.”
He only said 2 things: 1) “Ok, thanks for telling me.” and 2) “Why do you want to have kids?” A perfectly legitimate question. I think I’m crazy for wanting kids! This does not come naturally to me at ALL. There is not a single moment in my life, before telling Greg a couple of years ago, that I had this aching desire to be a mother. You can’t get much done as a parent. You’re tied to your house and your baby’s schedule for years, and then school & extracurricular activities after that. I felt like I would accomplish nothing as a parent and be incredibly frustrated by the whole process. I wanted to do things that mattered instead of selfishly procreate like everyone else (we also considered adoption as doing something that mattered).
I shared with Greg that I want to have kids because I feel that I have hit the ceiling on my understanding of God’s love and sacrifice for me. I want to know and comprehend just a glimpse of a love as passionate as a parent for their child. The heartbreak Abraham felt for Isaac as he walked with him to the place he would sacrifice Isaac as an offering to God:
“Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love—Isaac—and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.” Early the next morning Abraham got up and loaded his donkey. He took with him two of his servants and his son Isaac. When he had cut enough wood for the burnt offering, he set out for the place God had told him about. On the third day Abraham looked up and saw the place in the distance. He said to his servants, “Stay here with the donkey while I and the boy go over there. We will worship and then we will come back to you.” Abraham took the wood for the burnt offering and placed it on his son Isaac, and he himself carried the fire and the knife. As the two of them went on together, Isaac spoke up and said to his father Abraham, “Father?”
“Yes, my son?” Abraham replied. “The fire and wood are here,” Isaac said, “but where is the lamb for the burnt offering?” Abraham answered, “God himself will provide the lamb for the burnt offering, my son.” And the two of them went on together. When they reached the place God had told him about, Abraham built an altar there and arranged the wood on it. He bound his son Isaac and laid him on the altar, on top of the wood. Then he reached out his hand and took the knife to slay his son. But the angel of the Lord called out to him from heaven, “Abraham! Abraham!” “Here I am,” he replied. “Do not lay a hand on the boy,” he said. “Do not do anything to him. Now I know that you fear God, because you have not withheld from me your son, your only son.”
Abraham looked up and there in a thicket he saw a ram caught by its horns. He went over and took the ram and sacrificed it as a burnt offering instead of his son. So Abraham called that place The Lord Will Provide. And to this day it is said, “On the mountain of the Lord it will be provided.”” ~ Genesis 22:2-14
Wow, I cannot even imagine this! I’m not a parent yet and I cannot comprehend how difficult this must have been for Abraham. What’s even more crazy is that God experienced the full weight of this with his son, Jesus. God tested Abraham in Genesis, but it was not a test with Jesus Christ, it was Redemption Day for all of us when all the sins of the world were put onto the shoulders of the one man who had never sinned. I want to know and understand that love, the love that God has for
me every single person!
I want to be a parent to love others better. I want to be a parent to grow in understanding of God’s love. I want to be a parent to grow in Christ-likeness and character that brings glory, honor and praise to our Savior. I want our child’s life to be a living sacrifice to God. After all, He is giving us this blessing & responsibility. Yes, He wants to give us good things for our pleasure, but what will bring me the most pleasure is seeing our son grow in his own knowledge of God’s love for him and sharing that love with others. That is what matters, and I trust that The Lord Will Provide.
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